Having our nails perfectly manicured for years straight in anticipation, unlimited questions, overwhelming pressure deciding on food and decorations and a budget! All brides-to-be experience engagement differently. You may come to find that movies don't portray all of the behind-the-scenes, it isn't all glamorous, and nothing can quite prepare you for the actual moment when it is made official. However, there are a few tips that all can agree on to make engagement the most gratifying time in your relationship so far.
1. Take it SLOW! It is okay to plan a wedding date for years in the future. This will ensure that all of the planning can be handled efficiently, and most importantly be a fun, stress-free activity for both people.
2. Talk about the nitty gritty-once finances, values, morals and future goals in business and family are sorted out, there will be no surprises.
3. Celebrate each other! This is the next exciting chapter in your life as partners and friends. Throughout engagement you will overcome challenges and disagreements. It doesn't matter how long you have been together, because being engaged should not change you, but instead deepen your relationship.
Every Experience is Unique:
"I have to be honest - I began planning my wedding when I was 12 years old. I had dreamt of the moment I would get engaged for a long time (as cliche as that may sound!)
My fiancé and I lived together before getting engaged. Immediately it did not feel entirely different when we got engaged other than a ring on my finger - which was exciting! It became more real when we began wedding planning. When a date was selected and a venue was determined - it really made us feel that this was all happening. My fiance is my best friend, the greatest person I know, and someone I couldn’t imagine my life without. Getting engaged simply meant that we were going to make it official, more of a formality, since we both knew we were going to be together regardless of marriage.
As for stress with wedding planning, I really don’t have any! I’ve been looking forward to this time in my life for as long as I can remember. I’m naturally a very organized person and I enjoy staying on top of things. Planning a wedding is simply that - just making decisions and following through. We are working with a local wedding planner to assist with the design/set-up of the day so that is probably making our whole experience much more stress free. I’m going to be sad when it’s all over! I know everyone always says it doesn’t matter how the day goes just as long as you both are in love. For me however, I want to spend the day surrounded by friends and family in a space that inspires me and really signifies the wedding day itself. All in all: being engaged is awesome!"
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"I think this is probably different for everyone, but for me, it was seriously the most exciting moment of my life. My fiance and I have been together since we were 16 years old, but we waited a while to get engaged. We did this for a number of reasons, but the big one being we are a lot more financially stable at this chapter in our lives. Not much has actually changed since we have been engaged because we did live together for a year before our engagement. I think the things that have ultimately changed the most has just been the planning of our lives together and the conversations. We talk about boring stuff like opening banks accounts together, health insurance, and buying our first home. We got engaged last October and are getting married next May. We decided to do a longer engagement because I didn't want to be stressed. I wanted to ENJOY all of the planning and time together and not be arguing over silly stuff. I honestly haven't felt very much stress due to this factor. But I would say that the item that has given me the most anxiety is definitely the guest list. It is hard to decide where to draw the line. We never want to hurt anyone's feelings but we also didn't want a gigantic wedding.
Being engaged really is so fun! You can get to spend an entire year (or however long you are engaged) planning and celebrating the two of you! It's really special and makes me giddy just thinking about the big day!"